Claim Your Self Authority

CLAIM YOUR SELF-AUTHORITY is my 8 session coaching intensive to help you help YOURSELF claim your confidence, get the professional communication skills to get you what you need and want at work, and speak up from a place of certainty – not dread. Let’s return you to the balanced life you deserve with time to recharge and thrive – not just survive the stress that comes from being dismissed and worse.

• Get good at saying no
• Feel comfortable advocating for yoursef
• Stop asking for permission
• Uncover why you often go unheard

“Playing big doesn't come from working more, pushing harder, or finding confidence. It comes from listening to the most powerful and secure part of you, not the voice of self-doubt.”

-Tara Mohr

Is this you when you try to stand up for yourself?

  • "When I try to speak up, I'm told I'm too direct."

  • "I hear 'don't worry about it' when I raise an issue."

  • "I am constantly interrupted when I try to add to the conversation."

  • "I've been asked 'who do you think you are?' when I dared push back."

While the coaching work I do is ostensibly to help professional women over 40 (and some men too) decide to stay or leave distressing work, what is actually the pain, under the "covers" is building the courage to speak up and then listen to THEMSELVES.

And believe what they have to say to others is worth listening to.

This is Self-Authority.

To speak up and state clearly how they - and you (and all of us) truly want to live our lives and do our work.

This is Self-Authority.

Once you can trust that what you do, say, think and how you act is fine - WITH YOU - this gives you the the freedom and security to speak up - and have the career and life YOU want.

This is Self-Authority.

The Claim Your Self-Authority Roadmap

Remind Yourself Who You Are

  • Uncover your top work values + non-negotiables via the North Star Values Assessment

  • Determine your top 3-5 values to use as a tool kit when strategizing confident communication

·       Complete the Reflected Best Self (RBS) exercise to gather proof of your value from those who know you best (start this here – may take time to collect responses)

  • Meet your Future You and learn how this wise entity can help you TODAY

Decide Who to Listen to

  • Uncover your unique “family” of saboteurs, (or inner critics) constantly talking you down

  • Practice noticing and counteracting their influence

  • Build up "sage" powers for greater confidence, energy and clarity

  • Learn “Thought Work” to help deprogram from societal expectations, specifically the need to be small around men

Drop the Good Girl Programming

•       Decide for yourself what good leadership (and work) is – and how you want to embody it

•       Reserve judgement (and trust) of authority

•       Honor your own communication style

•       Own your own knowledge – no more need to only believe outside sources or people “know it”

•       Advocate for yourself in any and all situations requiring it

•       Do good work AND make it visible

 

Communicate with Confidence & Warmth

•       Become aware of limiting speech patterns (written + verbal)

•       Create your own Playing Big approach + “library” of statements to effective communicating without apology

•       Stay firm in the face of gaslighting

•       Employ “Powerful Questions” to clarify team outcomes AND help resolve bad leadership habits

 

Stay Connected

•       Build relationships/network/allies -> your own “Board of Directors”

•       Uncover new ways to negotiate with leaders: alignment before meetings and more

 

Putting It All Together

•       Collecting new learnings and habits into your “Thrive Kit” to take with you in this job – or any other

•       Celebrating the successes you’ve had from trying out these new skills along the way

The Claim Your Self-Authority package includes:

  • 45 min free chemistry session before you commit (scheduled separately)

  • 1 x 90 min appointments

  • 7 x 50-55 min appointments 

  • Thought-provoking homework challenges

  • Reading assignments/discussion from Playing Big by Tara Mohr (your own copy of the book included)

  • Private Google folder for homework and session notes

  • Feminist-based resources + homework exercises to support your voice

  • Notes after every session with detailed next steps

  • Email/text support in between sessions

COST: $2495 - 8 sessions - 4 months
(inquire about payment plans)

“I’ve worked with Becky and the transformation in my communication and emotional regulation skills has been remarkable. With her guidance and insight, I have drastically improved my ability to better understand people’s motivations, provide clear instructions, resolve conflicts effectively and handle difficult conversations. She provided me with both practical solutions and personalized advice that helped me to break through barriers that were holding me back from reaching my goals. Without them, I would not be where I am today. I would highly recommend Becky and her coaching services to anyone who is looking to improve their communication skills or emotional regulation when handling tough situations. She’s truly an expert in her field and provide invaluable support on your journey of personal growth!”
— Jhoan P.